True Story: This Expat Mom Became An Uber Driver In Singapore After Her Messy Divorce

21 July 2016

Passengers stepping into Ms Anna Gibbons’ Mitsubishi Attrage are usually surprised to find their Uber driver is a blonde, 6ft-tall woman.

The 44-year-old Briton was once told by a Malaysian man that she was the first white woman he had ever spoken to, and was even asked by a drunk guy one night if she was a Chinese taxi driver in disguise.

Uber said she is the only Caucasian woman out of its “tens of thousands of driver partners”, over 98 per cent of whom are Singaporean.

The single mother of two leaves quite an impression on passengers, not only because of her outgoing personality, but also because of her story.

She moved to Singapore with her banker husband in 2010 and became a permanent resident in 2013. But their 13-year marriage ended last year after he had an affair. He has since remarried.

Ms Gibbons said that under the Hague Convention – which is meant to offer protection from cross-border child abductions – she cannot leave the country with her children without her former husband’s consent. “I can’t move on with my life until he decides we can leave,” she said.

She estimates there could be 200 expatriate women divorcees in Singapore, going by the number in a support group.

Although her husband pays maintenance which covers the rent for her family’s apartment in Pasir Ris, fees for the children’s local school and other living expenses, she wanted to make her children’s lives easier by having a car.

She started driving with Uber in April. She works an average of 30 hours a week, when the kids are in school or asleep.

Uber-owned Lion City Rental gives her a 10 per cent discount on the car rental because she is a single mum. 

It has been hard for her 10-year-old son and 8-year-old daughter to adjust to life after the divorce. “My daughter is the only white child in her year, and the only white child whose parents don’t live together,” she said.

“When you’re going through a divorce with children, they need that stability… In Singapore your friends become your family, but friends aren’t the same as a granddad or an aunt and uncle.”

But the job has been like “a lifeline” for her, and she enjoys talking to her customers. She once found herself counselling a woman whose husband also had an affair. “She said it’s nice to talk to someone who has been through it and come out the other side,” she said.

Passengers have left feedback for her in the Uber app commending her for being “very strong” or thanking her for sharing her story.

Business developer Rachel Ooi, 28, who took a half-hour ride in Ms Gibbons’ car last Friday, said, “A lot of Singaporeans often see Caucasian women as tai-tais (wealthy housewives)… But if they go through a divorce and they have kids it can become very messy.”

 

Want to find out more about marriage and divorce issues in Singapore? Professional family lawyer Rajan Chettiar answers your questions:

ASK THE EXPERT: I Want A Divorce, But I’m Financially Insecure!
ASK THE EXPERT: How To Tackle Post-Divorce Challenges In Singapore

 

By Joanna Seow, The Straits Times, 17 July 2016

 

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