True Story: Are Expat Wives In Singapore Supporting Each Other Enough?

20 October 2016

By Finder blogger: Andrea McKenna


Be nice

Right? It’s what you tell your kids.

But are you doing it in your online life? Recent events unfolding in Facebook’s expat world suggest that some of us are not.

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I am reading a lot about unhappy customers on group pages. These pages are a treasure trove of information for us ladies living in Singapore, but some group administrators have had enough.

Fair enough, they are taking time away from their families to sit and babysit our sometimes silly comments on Facebook. I ran a website for a major news outlet in the United States so I know how it is: It’s a tough, time-consuming and thankless job.

Even if you are disappointed, slighted or you feel attacked in some way, it’s better not to act or react negatively online. We often hide behind our keyboards and fire off comments and messages faster than our minds can think. (I know I type faster than I think! In fact, I have had to rewrite this post several times, haha, self-editing is a skill.)


Be better

We, as women talking to other women, have to be better than that. Otherwise, we are just like certain American political candidates who trash anyone who doesn’t like him/her. (You don’t’ want to be THAT person!)

As women, we need to continue to support each other in the big, bad world. We can’t turn on each other when one group or person does something the other group or person doesn’t like.

We need to find and maintain common ground. Something like, “I am not happy about your decision/comment but I respect you and your right to make it.” Women need other women and support groups are about…support. Duh.


Be supportive

And to all the Facebook group Admins: You are doing a great job! No matter how much effort you put in there will always be people who don’t like what you are doing or the decisions you’ve made for the group. 

I know everyone today is all about responding to feedback, but seriously, never mind that crap. You don’t always have to give an explanation (even though I know you often do, which speaks of your efforts and dedication.) 

Do your best to stay on course with what your group is about and forget about the detractors. Leave it be and know there are likely many, many more women who are thankful for your groups that are supporting the expat community.


About Andrea McKenna

Andrea McKenna Brankin is journalist and author from the United States who lives a full life with bipolar disorder. Her book, Bipolar Phoenix, is awaiting a publishing contract. She is also currently a volunteer at the DaySpring Residential Treatment Centre for teen girls in Singapore, providing befriending-family support, therapeutic writing and rugby coaching.


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