For American expat Stephanie Taylor, the biggest challenge of being married in Singapore is the island’s high cost of living.
Stephanie and her British husband, Jeremy, moved to Singapore 18 years ago after getting married and have lived here all their married life.
“It’s very expensive here, so I was not able to have a car, which meant I had to give up the independence I was used to having,” she explains, touching on a common complaint for many trailing spouses on the aptly named Dependent’s Pass (DP).
These days, most of the couple’s money goes to education for their kids – including a 17-year-old daughter and two sons, aged 15 and 12 – or food for the family.
Fortunately, Jeremy only travels for work to Malaysia once or twice a month, so they are able to eat dinners together and can go out on weekends. Bonus: He’s able to leave her his company car when he travels so she can run the necessary errands – and get a little of that independence back.
For Stephanie, raising children away from her and Jeremy’s home countries has made them realise the importance of regular contact with their extended support network – something the couple accomplishes by visiting friends and family in the US or the UK each summer.
“This is how we can share with the kids our identity, backgrounds and the importance of maintaining relationships with friends and family,” she explains.
By Hazel Joanne Vincent De Paul, The Finder, February 2017
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